Friday, January 18, 2013


  This morning I posted 2 pics on Retro Wifey Facebook Page. One was of Jessica Hahn when she did Playboy and that picture started a debate about pornography. It was never my intention to "promote" pornography, as was implied that I did. I would like to explain a few things about myself. Before I posted the pictures I was already thinking about some ideas I wanted to Blog about today. With this happening it only made me want to even more.
  I was raised in a "Pentecostal Church" and anyone familiar with Church will know that they are very charismatic and strict. I was raised to be a VERY judgemental person. I am not proud of that and it poured over into my adult life. I will admit, Retro Wifey judged everyone. It was something that I looked at as me having high standards. I thought that if I don't agree with drinking, smoking, cussing, and anything else that must mean that I am the better person, right? WRONG. When you are raised in Church and taught to believe things that are not always right you will become a narrow minded person. I was that. I do believe that with age comes wisdom and through the years I have become more open minded. I have more tolerance and try not to judge anyone. Of course when it comes to my kids thats a hard one.

  I am saying all this because it just so happens that today when I posted that Jessica Hahn picture a poster said that they thought I had higher standards, that hurt. I pride myself in my standards. I am an honest person. Love my family. Homeschool my kids. Teach them to be honest, loving and tolerant people. I am accepting and am no longer that narrow minded person who I feel I was "taught" in Church to be. I love God. I feel that judgement is reserved for him, not us. I think that some people get so caught up on their high horse and feel like its their place to judge everyone and they are the very people who need to be knocked down a few pegs.

  I know the scripture and there is one that some people need to remember, and that is Matthew 7:5 and it says "You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

What that means is before you go judging and assuming you know something about someone you first need to examine your own life. If we all lived by that scripture the World would be a better place. 

I know some people think "its just Facebook, don't worry & get over it" however I do. I love being able to interact with everyone, share memories and pictures and hate that anyone would think less of my character. The thing is, not all History is good! People need to remember there are so many things that are horrible and I am so glad they are in the past but that doesn't mean its forgotten. If we forget things how will ever move forward? If we have forgotten where we have come from, how will we ever appreciate where we are? 

I guess my lesson learned today is, I am so thankful that I am not that judgemental person I used to be. I am glad that God still loves me regardless of my sins and faults and that my character, or lack of, isn't defined by a picture as some suggested.

Thank you for reading, it truly means a lot to me that any of you take time out of your day to read what I have to say xoxoxo

A.K.A Retro Wifey


  1. I mean, for real, I love every word I just read. I love the scripture you shared, your points of view are exactly how I feel. Wonderful post and I am so glad there are people like you in the world. Wonderfully written.

  2. Awe, you know I got lots of love for you xoxo Glad there are peeps like you!!

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  4. Haters gonna hate...I once ran a blog and caught h-e double l about Anne of Green Gables quotes...of all things!

    I just found your facebook page and subscribed. Keep your chin up because as Eleanor says " Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway."

  5. Oh I've been there! I used to have "very high standards" and was always "sorrowing" over others who did not share them. What a judgmental and unhappy person I used to be! I used to think that people didn't want to be around me because they felt convicted. Ha-ha! Now I know why they didn't want to be around me! Thank God for joy unspeakable and full of glory!

  6. LOL!! I thought the same way! Yes thank God!

  7. Just read you blog above. Wish this could be published and put on poster around the world so everyone can see and learn to live by it. This is very well said. Thanks for the reminder that we all need from time to time also.