Blessings

Today I have so much to be thankful for. I am thankful for the ability to homeschool our kids even though they are driving me crazy as I type! There is ALWAYS one thats either crying or fighting but I am praying in the midst of it all there is a lesson to be learned, patience for mama I think it is! I definitely don't have the patience that I once had. It seems like I am always in a hurry to move on to the next thing, I really wish I could learn how to relax a bit, maybe cut back on my coffee? Nah, thats not happening. Maybe I will just use earplugs, some days I really wish I could. Do you ever just wish it were quiet in your house? Just for 5 minutes? I know that sounds selfish to some but when you are with the kids 24/7 its nice to have 5 of those minutes in silence. I am so blessed to stay at home with them and they are my world but sometimes we need to take a little time for ourselves so we can ENJOY them more. My mom always told me "you need time for yourself so you can be the best mother you can" I never understood that comment or maybe I thought it sounded selfish but I do think its so true. So this evening when I take my shower before bed it will be at least 5 minutes of silence! So today thats what I am thankful for, a shower, and I am sure those around are thankful for that too :)

Monday Morning

What a sad weekend this has turned out to be. Am I the only one who really seems affected when A celebrity passes away? My hubby always says "You didn't know them" while that may be true on a person level, I grew up to Whitney Houston. I hear her songs and I can remember where I was usually with each one! "The greatest love of all" was my elementary school song, we sung that during music class and even during an assembly so in a sense I do feel like I knew her. As humans there is that compassion in each of us, especially moms, that really makes you want to reach out to her family and her daughter during this extremely sad time. My heart is heavy, I am praying for them all. I am so thankful today for being here, just to wake up is a gift not to be taken lightly. Its sounds so cliche but everyday is a gift and we need to be thankful for each one. So thats really the thing that has been on my mind and while I want to stay true to blogging on Mondays about the things I am thankful for this is the one thing I've been thinking about, just to wake up I thank God he has given me another day to be here with my loved ones and family and I plan to make the best of it.

I love the quote "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift thats why they call it the present".

Music and Memories

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Music has that special way of putting you right back in the moment, doesn't it? I remember as a kid my parents listened to all kinds of good music. Stevie Nicks was one of them. Mr. Petty isn't to shabby himself. I can remember my brothers and I laying in our beds while our parents had card games and listening to all the laughing and music. No matter what I am doing, listening to good music is always one of my favorite things to do.What songs take you back?

Monday Blessings

This has been a "Murphy's Law"day for sure. Its starting to look up though. To keep up with my promise to myself about starting my week with a "Monday Blessing" blog, here I go. I am so thankful for our extended family and friends, we had a Birthday Party this weekend for 2 of our 3 kids and we had many friends and family come and celebrate, my kids are truly blessed to have people in their lives other then their parents that love them so much. It gives me some peace to know that if, God forbid, anything ever happened to me or their dad there would be people there for them. Its so easy this day and age to become disconnected with physically seeing people, we get caught up with dropping an email or text that we lose that bonding in person. We all need to get together with friends and family and spend quality time. I can't wait for the spring so that we can have our cookouts and get outside to visit people more, there is something about seeing everyone in person that makes a good feeling, well most people that is, lol...Of course there is always that one person in the crowd we dread to see but I won't got there. My hubby actually had our kids doing the "face time" with their grandmother the other day which was really neat, just another way though to use technology to talk to each other. I think its a great thing but I don't want it to take the place of still getting together in person with those we can. I think its a great tool to use for those of us who have relatives far away or are limited to seeing others for health reasons, finances or whatever may stop us. To sum up my post, I am happy for my children having people in their lives other then mommy and daddy who love them. I know TOO MANY people who have no relationship with their parents or the grandparents and its really sad, the kids always seem to be the ones to suffer.

Afternoon Delight

I don't think I've ever met one person who has said they don't "Love Lucy", however as much as we love her there were some disturbing things on the show. For instance, ricky always threatened to spank lucy. There is nothing at all ok with that, even if it was the 50s and before most women had a voice its never ok to put your hands on another person. I love watching the show but I did have to explain the other day while watching with our oldest that is not ok to touch your spouse or anyone. Of course we always emphasize to our boys that "you never hit a girl", really you never hit anyone. Domestic Violence or abuse of any kind should never be tolerated. I will continue to watch Lucy, I just love them but it was not uncommon for a wife to be spanked. I am sure my hubby has wanted to spank me on more then one occasion and I know I would love to spank him! Of course we never do it. I love the old days, thats obvious, but I don't like the way women were considered to be beneath the man. I can remember my grandmother telling me that it was not uncommon for a man to spank or hit his wife for not doing the laundry properly, or making dinner on time. I know that my dear grandmother herself was on the end of such abuse quite a few times. While I love to reminisce about "The good ole days" there are many things about it that I am glad no longer exist. The perfect family to me no matter what year we live in is a family where all members are treated equally, with unconditional love, respect and kindness. I just felt I wanted to post this today, no reason in particular and I'm not trying to "bash" lucy's show because that was a way of life for them but I really am glad certain things about the old days have changed and treatment of women being the number 1.

Monday blessings

We had a very "non productive" weekend, my whole house has been fighting this horrible cold thats not going away! It started with our middle son, daughter ,oldest son and now hubby has been hit the worst. Thank God I didn't get it bad, just some sore throat and a little coughing but I've been so run down. Most moms can relate, our job is never done. I told my hubby this morning, since he stayed home from work, that I have 4 kids not 3! What is it about our men that when they are sick they act just like a child? I swear, just about every woman I talk to says the same thing! I am a caretaker by nature and I am sure that I don't help matter by the way I "baby" everyone. Its just how I am. I feel if my hubby is good back to me what harm is it in being this way? Right? Well I am beginning to wonder if thats wrong. I have 2 sons and often wonder how they will be as grown men, will they be old fashioned or be more modern? I know that my oldest already is old fashioned, he is the one thats like "I want my wife to stay home and not work". Well, what if he falls in love with a woman who wants to work, or what if financially thats not possible? So many what ifs and marriage is a long way off for them but its still things mothers think about. Obviously I love all things Retro and we are a very traditional family but in this day and age its not always an option for others to have the ability to stay home like I do. I am so very thankful for that the most of anything. I don't think there is anything wrong at all with a woman working, I did before kids, and I would go back once they are grown. If I wanted to work now it wouldn't be worth it anyway with the prices of daycare! I don't want to raise boys who only think that a woman should stay home and not work only, I also have a daughter so I don't want her to be "Expected" to stay home but if this is the way they want to live and its a respectful relationship then have at it! I get a lot of smart remarks about they way we are, I have lots of different friends and their relationships are different then mine so they think its a sign of weakness that I "dropped" everything for my family. I don't see it as that, I see it as a sign of unconditional love and I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world.