I often get a lot of feedback from people saying that I am too "young" to be Retro. I often reply with telling them that being Retro doesn't mean that I am wearing a dress, high heels and pearls while I vacuum but its a way of thinking for me. To me being the ultimate "Retro Wifey" is doing the things that I seen done in the past with my Mother, my Grandmother, Aunts, and other ladies I seen growing up. I love the idea of being a stay at home Mom. I often feel like I need to defend myself against working Mothers who may take my name and page in an offensive way, yes, I have had MANY ladies email me about it. I mean NO harm by my name, and I have the utmost respect for working mommies, I couldn't do it! I realize not everyone has the ability to stay at home and has to work, others choose to work, or whatever the situation is the bottom line is I respect all mommies and being "Retro" doesn't mean staying at home.
So for me being the ultimate "Retro Wifey" means to put my Husband and kids first. I love to take care of them. I am a caregiver by nature, I always worked in Nursing before having kids so that was my career of choice. Naturally I gravitate towards taking care of others. I guess its my thing! I do it well! Some people have other things that they are good at but for me I realized that I am good at taking care of people, running a house, raising my kids, and being a wife. It took awhile for me to come to that realization because I had other aspirations. I can remember when we had our 1st child and looked into daycare, I thought this would be easy, boy was I wrong! I didn't think that instinct would kick in and I wouldn't be able to part with my baby! The sacrifices we make along the way are not always easy but in the end I think as long as we do our best with the best intentions it will all work out.
So however you run your family is your business, if its staying at home or working out of the house as long as you are at peace with it then I think thats wonderful. We can all be "Retro Wifeys" putting our family first is the most important thing we can do. One day when they are all grown they will look back at us and thank us for our sacrifices. Thats what my prayer is. I hope that I do a great job with my kids and they pass on what I teach them when they have families of their own. Life isn't always easy and being a Wife and Mother surely has its trying times. WIth a strong family and faith in God I believe it will all work out for the best.
I don't know why people feel the need to tell you that your name offends them, I used to be a stay at home mom, my son is grown now, and I loved it more than anything in the world. It was the right decision for me and my family. I also used to feel the need to defend myself. I wondered how women could work and raise a family, some women have to, I was blessed and didn't have to. I think people do what they feel is right for them, no right or wrong, just works for them. If you're happy with it, shoudn't matter what anyone says, you're doing what works for you and your family.Love our blog. Have a great day.
ReplyDeleteI would love some homeschooling advice! I don't know where to begin.
ReplyDeleteJellobelly email me shllby1@gmail.com I would love to help. Jackie I was so surprised that it was offensive to some ladies, I really felt bad! Thanks for the kind words!
ReplyDeleteI love your name, I love your page...I love YOU! I know exactly what you mean with your name, Retro Wifey. I get it completely :)
ReplyDeleteYou know i got much love right back for ya MM....
ReplyDeleteI'd love to be a stay at home mum when we eventually decide to have kids, I'm looking for a part time job at the moment whilst I sell vintage online and that's so that on my days off I can cook clean, blog, look after the hubby (we get married next year), and I don't even have kids!
ReplyDeleteI recently left my job at a bank to choose this life for me and my fiance and I haven't looked back. Being "retro" is so much more than just a name, it is a way of life :-)
Lauren xx
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Thanks for your comment Lauren!
ReplyDeleteMy wish is that all women could stay at home with there kids now days. The kids would come home to a parent instead to a empty house. When mothers stay home they get there snacks , then there homework, then dad comes in then dinner all setting at the table, then the family time. In this world that we live in now it is so fast that people have lost the family aspect in life. We got it in are heads that are kids needs more than we did when we were young and this has ruined are kids. Look at them now the way they disrespect people and they have no respect for themselves. So I say all parents at least 1 should stay at home.
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