Monday, October 8, 2012
How to be a "Retro" Housewife
I often get a lot of feedback from people saying that I am too "young" to be Retro. I often reply with telling them that being Retro doesn't mean that I am wearing a dress, high heels and pearls while I vacuum but its a way of thinking for me. To me being the ultimate "Retro Wifey" is doing the things that I seen done in the past with my Mother, my Grandmother, Aunts, and other ladies I seen growing up. I love the idea of being a stay at home Mom. I often feel like I need to defend myself against working Mothers who may take my name and page in an offensive way, yes, I have had MANY ladies email me about it. I mean NO harm by my name, and I have the utmost respect for working mommies, I couldn't do it! I realize not everyone has the ability to stay at home and has to work, others choose to work, or whatever the situation is the bottom line is I respect all mommies and being "Retro" doesn't mean staying at home.
So for me being the ultimate "Retro Wifey" means to put my Husband and kids first. I love to take care of them. I am a caregiver by nature, I always worked in Nursing before having kids so that was my career of choice. Naturally I gravitate towards taking care of others. I guess its my thing! I do it well! Some people have other things that they are good at but for me I realized that I am good at taking care of people, running a house, raising my kids, and being a wife. It took awhile for me to come to that realization because I had other aspirations. I can remember when we had our 1st child and looked into daycare, I thought this would be easy, boy was I wrong! I didn't think that instinct would kick in and I wouldn't be able to part with my baby! The sacrifices we make along the way are not always easy but in the end I think as long as we do our best with the best intentions it will all work out.
So however you run your family is your business, if its staying at home or working out of the house as long as you are at peace with it then I think thats wonderful. We can all be "Retro Wifeys" putting our family first is the most important thing we can do. One day when they are all grown they will look back at us and thank us for our sacrifices. Thats what my prayer is. I hope that I do a great job with my kids and they pass on what I teach them when they have families of their own. Life isn't always easy and being a Wife and Mother surely has its trying times. WIth a strong family and faith in God I believe it will all work out for the best.