Most of you know that I started a Q&A where I invited readers from my blog to email questions that they may have about anything they may be facing or curious about, well I have gotten an overwhelming response so I am trying to post the questions and have you all chime in if you like. I truly think that with all of us out there its a great thing to be able to offer up any advice to someone who may be in need. Please feel free to comment.
Anonymous asks,
Sometimes I feel like I am so wrapped up in kids and housework that I feel very unfulfilled, don't get me wrong I love my family but there are some days where I truly feel like when they are grown I will not no what to do with myself! I am looking into some local Church programs for the kids so maybe I can have some time by myself and meet other ladies. Is this normal? I don't mean to sound ungrateful but I do feel like I have "lost" myself. I am happy and wouldn't trade it but I can't talk to anyone because I am afraid they will think I am ungrateful. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Who am I?
Dear Who am I,
ReplyDeleteI think we ALL know what you feel like. Do not feel guilty. Its so easy to get lost in our childrens lives, its ok, one day when they are grown we will be glad that we were there. I think its great that you reach out and try to meet other ladies, we all need a good friend or 2 that can be there to talk to when we need it. Its also good for the kids to reach out and meet others and get away from you so that they no what its like to be separated even if its only an hour. I am not saying the kids are a problem but I think it makes us all appreciate each other a little more. Remember they say "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"! I believe that applies to more then just our relationship with our spouse. Don't be so hard on yourself, you are totally normal!
The first time I became a stay at home mom, that happen to me so I went back to work. This time I have a new attitude and friends. its normal and important to have a part of your life thats for you. And dont forget date night with the hubby.
ReplyDeleteI definitely think it is normal to feel that way. It is so easy to feel isolated as a SAHM. I think that "girlfriend time" is a must. It could be going out to have a cup of coffee or just an uninterrupted phone call. Date night is a great idea. My husband and I can only afford "stay at home date nights" right now but dropping the kids off at my sister's gives us time to talk or eat uninterrupted or even watch a movie or tv show that isn't Disney lol Also some alone time is necessary where you can read a book or magazine, again uninterrupted. Just that little bit of time away will let you recharge. Check with your church and see what other programs they have. Mine has Awana for older kids and offers child care during bible study for younger kids so that parents can study. Also if you are Christian, I recommend the Focus on the Family website. They offer articles, downloads of their radio program, a free subscription to their magazine and all kinds of great stuff. They have been a lifesaver for me when I feel overwhelmed. Being a good mom is the most important thing you can do. Taking a break will help you be the best mom you can be, don't ever feel bad about it. Good luck!
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